I haven't taken the time to outline this post, so it will probably start to wander all over the place. Consider yourself warned. But here's my rant on California's Prop 8 and the two other gay marriage bans that were enacted by the voters on Tuesday.
Let's go over the standard arguments against gay marriage, and I'll address them one by one. (Thanks to the jackasses at nogaymarriage.com for making this easier.) Maybe it'll help keep this a little more organized, but I still don't promise not to stray a bit.
* God says it's bad, according to the Book, anyway. We have no business legalizing behavior prohibited by God.
Alright, I'm going to get the God argument out of the way right now. We're not talking about church doctrine, we're talking about law - as in man's law. The church doesn't apply on a legal issue. Each church has the right to decide whether or not they will bless the union of a same-sex couple or a heterosexual couple, but under law, marriage is a contract. Religion has nothing to do with it. Atheists are allowed to get married, and the church won't sanction it, but the state will. As the state should. Under law, marriage is a contract. If you have religious objections to gay marriage, that's your right, but you - or the government - can't force any other part of your doctrine on the rest of the population - thanks to our already constitutionally protected right to freedom of religion. No church or religious entity of any kind has to sanction a marriage in order for it to be legal. I got married the first time in front of a judge, not a minister. God wasn't mentioned in the vows or anything I signed. When it comes to law, sorry folks, God has nothing to do with it.
* Legally sanctioned gay marriages destroy the institution of marriage and are a threat to traditional families. More specifically, it's "devastating to children."
Ok. Tell me, HOW exactly it is a threat? Will heterosexual couples stop getting married if gay couples are allowed to marry? I think not. It's completely ridiculous. So this is sanctioning non-traditional families. Well, mixed race families are non-traditional. Mixed-religion families are non-traditional. Families with adopted children or foster children are non-traditional. Hell, marrying outside the clan is a break with tradition, and if you look at the history of royal families, marrying outside YOUR OWN BLOODLINE was a violation of tradition. Traditional marriages, depending on your culture and tradition, included having herds of mistresses, often living within the same household. Traditional marriages were arranged by the parents, with no right of the children to choose their own mate. Tradition sent pre-pubescent girls into wedlock with men old enough to be their own grandfathers. Times change. Don't even try to make the argument that "tradition" is the gold standard for determining what is right. Slavery was a tradition once, too, in this country. In many places, it still is. Does that make it right? Does anyone really believe that there's any validity to the "we do it this way because this is the way we've always done it; therefore, it is the right way to do it." We wouldn't get very far if we thought that way about everything. And as for destroying the institution of marriage, gays are trying to be a PART of the institution of marriage. They're showing the ultimate form of respect for the institution of marriage. What do the anti-gay marriage people think this is? Some kind of segregated country club? And as far as being devastating to children, it's been well-established that children of gay couples are no more likely to be socially deviant in any way than children of opposite-sex couples. In fact, children raised by two committed parents statistically are better off, regardless of the sexes of the parents. Besides, I might remind you that marriage is not biologically required by homosexual or heterosexual couples to bear children. I know lots of lesbians who've given birth to children. Usually in the "old-fashioned" way, too. If mommy lives with another woman, she's still mommy. And the other woman might well be mommy, too. Why can't they get married and legally establish the commitment they've made to each other? As it stands now, if the biological mommy dies, the non-biological one has no legal right to keep the child she might well have raised since birth. Taking both parents away is somehow BETTER for the child?
* Legally sanctioned gay marriage will lead to polygamy and other vile practices such as marriage to children or animals. This is the so-called "slippery slope" argument.
This is my favorite. I'll say again marriage is a contract. By its nature and definition, it is an EXCLUSIVE contract. Remember that "forsaking all others" bit in the usual vows? That's what it's about. The contract legally binds two consenting adults to each other to the exclusion of others. So the idea that legally sanctioning gay marriage will open the door to polygamy is, like the rest of the arguments, a complete load of crap. There goes the part about marrying children or animals, too. Under any contract law, contracts cannot be entered into by a minor (without a parental co-signator) or by an animal. Enough said. On top of that, states already have in place protections regarding the age of parental consent for marriage. All the states. So this supposed door has already been closed.
* I'm pulling this one directly from the site, because it's such crap you need to see it in its entirety. "An even greater objective of the homosexual movement is to end the state's compelling interest in marital relationships altogether. After marriages have been redefined, divorces will be obtained instantly, will not involve a court, and will take on the status of a driver's license or a hunting permit. With the family out of the way, all rights and privileges of marriage will accrue to gay and lesbian partners without the legal entanglements and commitments heretofore associated with it."
Damn, I've got to say, "paranoid much?" There's a homosexual movement? So they've got recruiters out there or something trying to "turn" your children like it's some kind of cult. Give it up! Gay marriage means these people WANT to commit exclusively to one person for the rest of their lives. How on earth does this equate to a desire to make divorces as easy to obtain as a hunting permit or driver's license. Besides, MARRIAGE is already easier to get than a driver's license for most people. There's no test involved. Divorce, however, is not easy. That first marriage of mine in front of the judge, we got it in two days by signing a couple of papers and filling out an application. And the marriage lasted five months. Yes, it was a mistake, but it was ours to make, and it was perfectly legal. The divorce? That took 22 months. Nothing in legalizing gay marriage can possibly relate to making divorce easier. The marriages and the divorces should be equally as easy or difficult to get as they are right now for anyone else. Just EQUAL. "With the family out of the way, all rights and privileges of marriage will accrue to gay and lesbian partners without the legal entanglements and commitments heretofore associated with it." How is that, when precisely what they're asking for is to be able to have EXACTLY THE SAME legal entanglements and commitments as heterosexual couples?
* Every school will be required to teach that this "perversion is the moral equivalent of traditional marriage."
I don't think anything about any kind of marriage has been taught in most schools since maybe the early 1970s or so. I mean, they don't have time to teach music and art because there are all these tests they're required to prepare kids for. Schools don't teach morality.
* Courts will not be able to favor a "traditional family" over a household with two parents of the same sex in adoption or foster family child placement.
So what? Children need to be raised in a healthy, loving family. There are thousands of heterosexual married couples involved in drugs, violence and all kinds of other criminal behavior. Each couple should be evaluated on its own merits, and frankly, they need to be evaluated a lot more closely. There are children who need good homes that could be provided to them by a loving homosexual couples. Those parents will dress them for school, help them with homework, make them dinner, drive them to soccer games - just like any good parents do. Preference should not be given to a couple with lesser qualifications just because they're of two different sexes.
* It would be excessively draining on the Social Security system because of the millions of new dependents entitled to survivor benefits.
Umm, so you shouldn't be able to collect Social Security benefits because you're gay? Umm, do gay people not work and pay into the system just like everyone else? And let's talk about the children again. If a parent dies, the children are entitled to Social Security benefits, which, by the way, are calculated based solely on that person's lifetime income and payments into the system. So, if Tommy has two mommies and one of the mommies dies, he shouldn't get that benefit? Yeah, that's really protecting his interests, isn't it?
* This one's not from the site, but from a comment I read while going through all the post-Prop 8 passage news. The purpose of marriage is to sustain and propagate the species. Gay couples can't have kids. As I recall, the fellow said something along the lines of "why should they get all the rights and benefits associated with marriage while WE do all the work."
Alright, stupid. So does this mean that heterosexual couples who cannot or choose not to have children should not be allowed to get married either?
The supporters of Prop 8 in California and the other abominations in Arizona and Florida are arguing that the majority has spoken, and gay couples will just have to live with it. One of the primary purposes of government is to protect the minority from the majority. These propositions never should have been presented to the voters in the first place. It's just allowing the morality of the majority to be imposed upon the minority. It's sanctioning discrimination. If the abolition of slavery was put to a vote in Alabama, Arkansas, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Mississippi, Missouri, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and Virginia in the 1860s, it would have failed. Would that have made it right?